We’ve all been there. We have all planned the way we want our lives to be one day. We’ve all thought we’d still have those people in our lives, the ones who left. Mourning for people who are still alive is achingly painful. We become so engulfed in these thoughts about them, these fantasies, so much that we begin to place people on pedestals. We see them as how we want them to be, not how they are. We see things the way we’ve trained our minds to. The brain is so complex that it can be your worst enemy when you lose someone. So train your brain. Change your mind set. Because, why? Why do we need to plan ahead? Have you ever found that the moments you plan dont actually go according to plan, and the ones you do not plan are some of the best moments of your life. The spontaneous ones. So save yourself from the heart ache. Breathe. Stop thinking about one day. Stop thinking about what was. You cannot change it. Think about today. Learn to love your own company. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean being lonely. Some people are alone but they are happy.
When you are left, dont ask for closure, dont think about why. Be grateful because you dodged that bullet. Think about all the ways in which you have been wronged, put them down on paper. The more you write them and the more you read them, the easier it will get for you to not just remember the good times, the fantasies. But it will imprint the negative events leading up to your situation into your brain. Which is the reality of it and not what you thought it was. Do this, it will help you heal. If you’re on the other end of betrayal and heartache, make a list of the pro’s and con’s of that person. Whether it be a friend or a lover. Your list will most definitely have more con’s. Think about it. Let it sink in. Is that what you want your life to be? You deserve more than just to settle. You deserve it all.
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